Restless

Sometimes I get so restless waiting for you.
I’m unsure of myself and what to do.

I can’t wait for the day you finally are here.
To save me from myself and my biggest fear.

So prove me wrong and start on your way.
I’m ready for you now I wish today was the day.

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Idiots Making Assumptions

I am sure that many of you have seen the latest article floating around Facebook claiming to be the “5 Reasons Why Girls with Tattoos and Piercings Are Broken”. I know I have and let me tell you it pissed me off fairly quickly. I was debating going on a typical Facebook rant about the ignorance of this particular individual (ahem Matt Forney) but decided to take it a step farther and blog about it. I guess you could say I am calling him out.

If you would like to take the time to read this garbage so you can further understand my reasons for being pissed here is the link : http://www.returnofkings.com/45334/5-reasons-why-girls-with-tattoos-andor-piercings-are-broken

I don’t even want to post that on my page to give him more attention but I thought this particular breed of nitwit should be experienced. Also I feel it necessary to site the source of the information.

My reason behind this was because a friend of mine took time out of his day to text me the link to the article as we discussed how big of an asshole this guy really is. I am a woman with multiple tattoos. Not as many as some people but a fair amount. I also am friends with many beautiful ladies who are tattooed and have gone on to be successful in business and wonderful mothers. So I have no problem telling you how big of a douche this man is. Hmm… where to start?

I am going to highlight all 5 points in his article and I will weigh in on all of them. I won’t be anything less than thorough so let’s proceed shall we?

  1. They’re sluts

Matt has gotten many things wrong here but I want to start with a line that particularly rubbed me the wrong way. “What kind of girl would be comfortable lying down half-naked in public for two hours while a man with a dirty beard jams a sharp needle into her skin? Answer: the kind of girl who takes sharp objects in her vagina as a hobby.  Girls with tattoos and/or piercings are slags who fall in and out of guys beds at a moment’s notice.” OH BOY.  The typical tattoo artists really aren’t fat guys with long beards and most of them don’t wear Harley Davidson vests. This is yet another general visualization people have drilled into their heads. I have gotten many tattoos all by clean cut upstanding young men who are wonderful artists. The last thing they are is “sloppy” which is what this writer is portraying them to be. Even if they were overweight why does that matter? If they produce quality work and are respectable who gives a shit.

My other bone to pick in this first paragraph of Matt’s discriminatory and pathetic attempt at journalism is the highlighted reason. Just because a woman has tattoos and/or piercings doesn’t make them a slut. It makes them an individual who enjoys the art. That would be like me going up to the first Islamic man I have ever seen and accuse him of being a member of the Taliban. Also spewing out rumors that that same person is going to brutally attack women and destroy the United States. I really don’t think I need to go into detail here you get the point.

As the next paragraph continues he states that one of the first girls he has ever been with had piercings. She went on to sleep with his friends and many other men in only a few months’ time. He also claimed that she was “turning tricks on the side”.  This just sounds to me like he was burned and is butt hurt about it. I can’t help that his first lame attempt at a “girlfriend” really was a skank that did him and every other guy that came around. Her piercings had nothing to do with it. Matt must have just been looking for something to justify her actions because he probably was lacking in many departments and couldn’t keep her interested or he was peeved that she wouldn’t stay around to continually give him what he wanted.  So he shouldn’t use her outward appearance as the reason and pin the slut status on every woman with the same features. If we are going to be so childish I might as well go get a red marker and write the letter “S” on my shirt right now. Jeez

  1. They have no foresight

“Girls who get inked or pierced are showing that they can’t be trusted to plan for the future. They don’t care that their stupid choices will consign them to living off their parents for the rest of their lives.” Sigh. I could go on and on here also but I will limit it to just this sentence.

I have particular insight on how this “fact” is indeed false because I am living proof that it is. I am a planner to the highest degree. I am also person who thinks ahead in every situation I find myself in. I plan and plan until every little detail is perfectly played out in my mind with every possible outcome. I also have held many responsible and trustworthy jobs. I have been a banker, medical assistant, receptionist, assistant manager, vet assistant, daycare supervisor, and currently work at Coach as a sales associate. Yes people Coach as in FANCY FANCY HANDBAGS. I have had all of my tattoos while being employed by these places and not one of them discriminated against me for it. I didn’t have to prove I was trustworthy based on the colors permanently inked into my skin. I did have to cover them in some places which I figured I would and had no problem doing so. But the point I am making is that I am trustworthy and have been the most reliable person in these jobs.  I HAVE NEVER LIVED OFF OF MY PARENTS. I have always had a job since I was 15 years old and bought my own things. My first car was paid for in full with my money. I can’t even begin to describe how many accomplishments I have tacked onto my belt since being that young. I have a lot for my age and I am proud of it because I earned it. Tabitha 2 – Matt 0.

  1. They’re selfish

“A girl who willfully disfigures herself like this will never attempt to please you or do anything nice for you.” Then in pure asshole fashion he throws out the c word like candy to kids at a parade, another pet peeve of mine. Putting the tattoos and piercings aside not every person has a similar heart to yours. You shouldn’t expect them to treat people the same way you do. We are all individual people with different ways of doing things. I’m not saying that Matt has a heart I’m just speaking in general. I can agree that getting tattooed is a personal decision and I feel that a person has the right to decide for themselves. So if that makes me selfish I guess I am. But I am not someone who is so selfish that I won’t help another person in need. Seriously Matt you suck. You just had a bad experience with a selfish person. Maybe if you weren’t so nasty somebody would want to do something nice for you. Pssh

  1. They’re boring

He states here that most girls are “dull as dirt anyways” but when they have tattoos that only means that they are aggressively dull. He then again describes his “piercing addict girlfriend” as someone who was out of tune with many current events and not registered to vote though she identified herself as a Marxist. Well here we go again going back to his particular experience with one girl.  I really can’t even think of what to say about this paragraph because it just radiates pure stupidity. For someone hinting on the fact that his old girlfriend was stupid you are actually quite stupid. Since you are convinced that one person is the poster child for every other person with tattoos and piercings. Sorry not sorry you’re injudicious. Which in case you weren’t aware Matt is a fancy word for…. Stupid.

  1. They’re mentally ill

So many wrong statements here I’m having a difficult time picking only one. I will say I am not crazy, suicidal, murderous, or have a split personality. I have been through many challenges in life that should have made me psychotic but I rose from the ashes intact without the use of a straightjacket. Again he is continually referencing the same girlfriend and now another one that had a” tramp stamp”. By the end of the article all I gathered (besides his inaccuracy) was that all he wants to do is whine. I can’t help that you have poor taste in women.

It is a proven fact though that in some cases people attract what they put out into the world. So since we are making assumptions I can assume that this Matt character is a slutty, boring, crazy , selfish, close minded  person who has no plans for his future because he is too busy reflecting on his past bad experiences while using those to label every woman who has ink. Wow. He is definitely a busy beaver.

In closing I would like to say that it sounds like Matt was royally screwed by a girl who fits the mold of the stereotype inside of his own head. So before you make assumptions Matt and continue spread your ignorance to the masses think long and hard about the backlash you will receive. Also contemplate the fact that you may be wrong in some cases. Not every person who looks a certain way acts like the one you have encountered. This pinhead way of thinking is why the world is in the shape it’s in.

I learned this phrase in English class and it stuck with me. The teacher would ask, “What happens when we assume?” He would then write the word on the board and underline the parts he wanted us to notice while saying this, “It makes an ass out of u and me .

The End

Angel in Yoga Pants

Today was starting out to be an annoying day. I woke up from a Nyquil slumber only to find my house in complete chaos.

My dog had went outside for his usual morning potty only to come back in with poop on his butt. My husband hadn’t noticed it and neither had I until I sat down on the couch to eat breakfast. An unpleasant odor filled my nostrils making my egg taste funny. I look down and there it is… hanging from his bottom.

Showering my dog at 6:30 in the morning was sucky. I figured that would be the worst of it.

Shortly after I found poop on my blanket and on my carpet. Great. The carpet was by far the worst because he had drug his butt across it. Long story short I had a shitty morning, literally.

It wasn’t until I got to the gym (that took a lot of convincing on my part) did I have one of the best encounters in my 26 years of life. It wasn’t just a typical run in with an old acquaintance but a miraculous one which instilled hope in my otherwise sorrowful heart.

A lady I used to workout beside on the elliptical was walking around the track when she spotted me and made her way over. We only know each other from the gym and practically racing against one another on a machine. Our relationship was based on waves in passing, small talk, and silently competing. I would use her as my motivation to work out harder. The woman is in her 50’s and ripped… like what more motivation do you need at the gym?

Anyways she asked me how I was doing with a somber tone already knowing the answer. She knew (back in June) I was pregnant because my workouts became a lot less intense. When I had found out she was already questioning it . The day I finally confessed why I hadn’t been “Getting Cray Cray” with my weight training she smiled and congratulated me.

So today when she saw my flat stomach she was clearly aware that there was no more baby.

She told me to come with her for only a minute and pulled me off of the machine. I followed her into the bathroom when she confessed to me that she also experienced loss. I thought that maybe it was her first attempt at pregnancy like mine was. She  told me that she had lost 4 babies and only managed to carry one of her children to full term. I was shocked and felt incredibly remorseful for her.

She then held my hand and began to say the kindest prayer for hope and healing that I had ever heard.
I immediately began to cry when she looked up and said,” You will have a baby. I know it, this hurts but it’s recoverable. Don’t let your grief spiral into depression. You will see your baby again someday.”

I walked out of the gym today with not only a sense of calm but so much happiness that my heart hurt. I was elated that there are still kind people in a selfish world.

I had only recently began getting myself back to positive thinking and making the necessary changes in my life and this moment was the last kick in the butt I needed. She is more than right and I believe she was put in my path for this reason. I am thankful to God for this day and many more hopeful ones to come.